We talk to each other about each other. It’s a natural and normal part of being a social creature. At times it’s helpful to process with someone about how to deal with someone else. At other times, talking about someone becomes a substitute for talking to them. In an effort to avoid conflict, many of us find ourselves talking more behind people’s backs than we do to their face. We attempt to work out our frustrations with everyone but the one they’re with. It rarely works out well. Why do we do this? How do we stop? What other options are there?